Courtney MargulisAbout the Author:

Courtney Margulis, MA, CCC-SLP is a person who stutters, speech-language pathologist, and doctoral student at New York University studying social cognitive influences on stuttering. She has been an active member in the stuttering community for over ten years, currently serving as Professional Relations Chair of the National Stuttering Association Board of Directors. Courtney is co-author of the 3Es model for stuttering therapy and her research has recently been published in ASHA Perspectives and the Journal of Fluency Disorders. In 2020, she received the Distinguished Early Career Professional Certificate of the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (ASHA). Courtney is a writer for Medbridge Education, has been featured on several podcasts about stuttering, and has presented on stuttering at several national and international conferences.

There’s a problem with how stuttering is represented in the media. Although not obvious at first, subtle microaggressions from Hollywood reward fluency and shame stuttering. Shows, movies, and even books inadvertently praise the stigma instead of normalizing stuttering.

One example is the reaction toward Amanda Mammana, a person who stutters, on America’s Got Talent. When I first saw her perform, I was hooked. As a person who stutters, and blocks in a similar way as Amanda, it was surreal seeing someone on national television and a viral video talking the way I do. At the same time, I had a sickening feeling in my stomach. I felt used, misunderstood, and pitied. Here’s why:  

Problem #1: The title of the video

The YouTube clip is titled, “Singer With Speech Impediment Moves the Judges to Tears”

Stuttering is a difference, not an impediment. Yes, it’s hard to stutter, and for some it can certainly feel like an impediment, but that doesn’t give society the right to call it an impediment. This slight change of semantics actually makes a big difference. Impediment is defined as “a hindrance or obstruction in doing something.” Stuttering can have a significant impact on communication and the avoidances associated with it might become a hindrance as the person who stutters avoids situations, changes words, and doesn’t say what they want to say. But often, the stuttering itself only becomes a hindrance when society makes it that way. Words like impediment perpetuate the stigma and keep the vicious cycle moving forward. 

Let’s substitute speech impediment with some other phrases:

“Singer With Depression Moves the Judges to Tears”

“Overweight Singer Moves the Judges to Tears”

“Short Singer Moves the Judges to Tears”

“Singer With Deformed Face Moves the Judges to Tears”

“Immigrant Singer Moves the Judges to Tears”

“Singer with One Leg Moves the Judges to Tears”

Reading those might make you uncomfortable. That is the feeling I had, as a person who stutters, reading the title of the video. 

Stuttering is one of the few disorders/differences that still seems to be okay to patronize. Why can’t we just use the word stutter? Or why even point it out at all? 

Problem #2: Speaking and singing are two different tasks 

Singing and speaking are two completely different tasks. Yes, people who stutter don’t stutter when they sing¹. Period. No overcoming, no hard work, just a cold, hard scientific fact. 

When Amanda shares, “I don’t stutter when I sing” everyone cheers. Of course you don’t stutter when you sing, just like a person who cannot walk does not have trouble moving their arms or eating their breakfast. 

The line gets blurred because speaking and singing both come from the voice. But stuttering is actually not a voice or speech motor disorder. It’s a complicated, intertwining of motor, cognitive, psychological, and temperamental factors². Stuttering is variable³. It’s not consistent. Sometimes we’re fluent and sometimes we’re not.

AGT chooses to call it a speech impediment, not a singing impediment, for good reason. Amanda does not have any impediment in singing that she suddenly overcame by coming on AGT.

Problem #3: The microaggressions

A microaggression is defined⁴ as “the everyday slights, indignities, put downs and insults that people of color, women, LGBT populations or those who are marginalized experience in their day-to-day interactions with people.” Even well-intended compliments can be microaggressions and they can significantly impact mental health. 

Examples of microaggressions in Amanda’s AGT video include: 

  • The body language of the judges and audience (jaw drops, eyes bulging, crying, shocked face). What exactly are they reacting to? Because she only sang a few notes by the time these reactions occurred, it’s safe to assume that they were reacting to the transition from stuttered and struggled speech to fluent and “beautiful” singing. 
  • Expressions such as “Oh my gosh that’s incredible!” What’s incredible? If you truly thought that her songwriting and singing ability warrant the word “incredible”, great. I’m not referring to you. But if, like me, you thought she was a terrific singer and talented songwriter, but you’ve heard better singer songwriters, why are we using the word incredible? 

At the end of the clip, we have two different experiences happening simultaneously. Amanda is crying for what to me seems like pride and accomplishment. She got the opportunity to do something she never thought she could do – share her talent with a national audience. The audience seems to be reacting to the “inspiring” way she found to “overcome” her stuttering (singing). 

Microaggressions disguised as compliments abound in the YouTube comments: 

“It’s absolutely remarkable how she escaped her impediment when singing”

“Don’t talk for the rest of your life. Sing for the rest of your life”

“She reminds me that we all have the ability to overcome adversities. And, we are not defined or governed by conditions that try to limit us. She embodies courage. What an inspiration.”

Representation is good, but if it’s not portrayed in the right way, it can backfire… hard. 

Bravery is defined as “ready to face and endure danger or pain.” We who stutter have to be brave because stuttering in our society can have negative consequences. Amanda is brave for showing up, stuttering openly, and introducing herself as a person who stutters without knowing how others would react. She is not brave or courageous for being fluent when she sings. 

Society makes stuttering brave.

But stuttering shouldn’t be considered brave, just like any other way of talking or walking or being is not brave. We have little control over whether we stutter a lot or are completely fluent. It’s just a different way of talking. It doesn’t warrant praise. 

Problem #4: The portrayal of stuttering in the media still sucks 

The overcome narrative is all over the place. Stella Young, who coined the term inspiration porn, titled her TED talk, “I’m not your inspiration, thank you very much.” She describes herself as “a comedian and journalist who happens to go about her day in a wheelchair — a fact that doesn’t, automatically turn me into a noble inspiration to all humanity.” She refers to inspiration porn as “the objectification of people with disabilities in media, which serves the purpose of making the consumers, people without disabilities, feel good.” One type of inspiration porn is when a person with a disability “overcomes” their disability in order to participate in a particular activity. In this case, it’s Amanda “overcoming” her stuttering in order to sing. AbleSC describes it nicely – “it makes us feel extra special, when we just want to be considered normal.” 

The problem is, inspiration porn sells. People want to see others overcome their struggle. So the narrative persists. 

Bridgerton is a good example of how this narrative sells. Simon, the main character, is characterized on the show as a man who had overcome his childhood stutter with hard work. In the book, Simon’s stutter returns intermittently and he must either change his words, avoid talking, or pretend to clear his throat to avoid “tripping over his words” and maintain his status in society. 

I want to get to a place where stuttering is normalized in the media. Where we can have a character who is both handsome, confident, AND stutters. You do not have to overcome your stuttering to be beautiful. 

I’ve always found it interesting to compare stuttering with weight. There are many differences between the two, but I keep coming back to this analogy because we can learn a lot from how this narrative has changed over time. We have a long way to go, but we are starting to accept that women can be both overweight and beautiful. The message we got for so long was “you can do it!” “You can lose the weight and then you will be sexy and desirable!” With the help of role models like Lizzo, there is increasing representation that weight is just a cultural construct – you don’t have to be skinny to be beautiful. 

In the same vein, you do not have to be fluent to be beautiful. But yet, stuttering is still portrayed as something that when overcome, is truly inspirational. This message is communicated loud and clear in Amanda’s video, when the pity and tears turn to shock and inspiration when she starts to sing. 

Back to the title – Amanda is referred to as a “singer with a speech impediment” because that is the part that is inspirational. That’s the happy story. If we were truly inspired by her songwriting or singing ability there would be no reason to title this video as such. Did you even hear her lyrics? Listen to her voice? Or were you just in awe of how fluent she was when she sang? We don’t want to just be listened to, we want to be heard

It’s time to normalize stuttering instead of praising the stigma.

References:

  1. Andrews, G., Howie, P. M., Dozsa, M., & Guitar, B. E. (1982). Stuttering: Speech pattern characteristics under fluency-enhancing conditions. Journal of Speech, Language, and Hearing Research25(2), 208-216.
  2. Smith, A. & Weber, C. (2017). How stuttering develops: The multifactorial dynamic pathways model. Journal of Speech, Language, and Hearing Research60(9), 2483-2505. 
  3. Tichenor, S. E. & Yaruss, J. S. (2021). Variability of stuttering: Behavior and impact. American Journal of Speech Language Pathology30(1), 75-88. 
  4. Sue, D. W., Capodilupo, C. M., Torino, G. C., Bucceri, J. M., Holder, A. M., Nadal, K. L., Esquilin, M. (2007). Racial microaggressions in everyday life: Implications for clinical practice, American Psychologist62(4), 271-286. 

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It’s Time to Normalize Stuttering Instead of Praising the Stigma – Courtney Margulis — 45 Comments

  1. Thanks so much for sharing this post as I learned so much! I must admit this was the first time I watched the Youtube click and I found myself tearing up in the part at the end when she was talking about how she never thought she would be good enough to ever get up on stage because of her stutter as that hit close to home for me for various reasons.

    I really appreciate you sharing your perspective on the narrative that is portrayed by media. I guess one question I have for you is that do you feel that pointing out the “othered” aspect of someone is still a net positive for the overall Diversity & Inclusion progress that our society is trying to make? I think a lot of challenges the disabilities community has faced in the past is that they often feel left out of the Diversity & Inclusion umbrella so if we remove the stuttering label of individuals don’t you think that will further perpetuate the stuttering community not being captured under the various Diversity & Inclusion initiatives that serve to help target underrepresented communities? One could argue by so much of the media focusing on her stuttering it helped raise a lot of stuttering awareness in a society where there is still so little awareness.

    Appreciate you sharing your views on this!

    • Hi Kunal, thank you for reading! I’m glad to hear you learned a lot. This is a great question. I do think there is some good that came out of this video. I do encourage you, however, to think about how/if the perception of stuttering changed (from the use of the label) after this video aired? Stuttering awareness is great, but we must think about what exactly we are trying to make people aware of. I feel the label caused stuttering to be portrayed in a negative light in this context. There are many ways to successfully use the label in a positive/neutral way.

  2. Thanks for writing this Courtney.

    I agree with most of your points with the slight exception of “”stuttering shouldn’t be considered brave.” I do agree that stuttering by itself isn’t brave, but putting yourself on the spotlight IS. Most of us grew up with a mix of fear, embarrassment, and shame because of the way we speak, so when we decide to “be public” with it, like Amanda did on that video… that definitely requires bravery.

    I agree that for the majority of the population that thing might have been obscured by the “inspiration porn,” but we shouldn’t minimize the level of bravery and confidence that she displayed by going through the audition, make it to the show and then perform in front of a full auditorium and TV cameras.

    I love the phrase “You do not have to overcome your stuttering to be beautiful,” that is the mantra that every person who stutters needs to learn.

    • Hi David, thanks for reading! Absolutely! People who stutter are brave all the time for showing up and talking openly about it. I don’t feel that’s the type of bravery that is portrayed here, or at least that’s not how I perceived it. It seemed they were labeling her as brave by overcoming her stuttering through singing.

  3. Hello!

    I really appreciate all of your points. People often feel they are honoring the person who stutters, or other person with a disability, solely because of their disability. However, when people give these compliments, they often come out as a compliment of the person’s disability, instead of the person themselves. You are right, “You do not have to overcome your stutter to be beautiful.” I hope I remember this quote to tell my future clients, as I am a future SLP!

    • Thank you for reading, Emily! I like how you put that “complementing the disability instead of the person” – that is so true. I’m glad to hear you will take this information with you for your future clients who stutter.

  4. As a future speech pathologist who hopes to create positive experiences for my clients, I’m wondering if you have any suggestions for moments you have found in the media that you felt increased representation. Do you have any suggestions for Youtube videos, Tiktoks, or any influencer who stutters that I could use in sessions?

  5. This was such a good post! I totally agree that the “you’re so brave” attitude the media has towards people who stutter only worsens the narrative that a stutter is something “negative”. Your example of “Singer With Depression Moves the Judges to Tears, Overweight Singer Moves the Judges to Tears,” etc., really resonated with me.

    I recently enrolled in a fluency class at my college – this class in particular focusing on stuttering. Before I learned about the stigmas that society creates and the media pushes on us, I had never even noticed them on shows like AGT before. Now that I notice the microaggressions, it is stunning to see how little informed most people are on this topic and how big of a difference it would make if society stopped pushing this narrative.

    Thank you so much for this post!

    • Thank you for reading, Olivia! I’m glad to hear you resonated with this. Yes, there’s a lot of stigma associated with stuttering that many people don’t realize is happening.

  6. This was a good read, but it was also a very uncomfortable read because for every negative aspect you listed, I could think of multiple examples of it occurring either with stuttering or other aspects. I have also, as a future SLP, been sent several videos from friends and family of these types of harmful videos. A question I keep coming back to is why it is still so prevalent with stuttering?

    • Thank you for reading! That’s an excellent question. I don’t have an answer, but I suspect it has something to do with the overcome narrative – https://medium.com/@nycstutters/stuttering-how-to-overcome-the-narrative-f6430c00f52

      Because of its variability, stuttering continues to be viewed as something that happens to people when they’re nervous or anxious that can be “overcome” by hard work and practice. People like these stories, so shows like AGT continue to tell them because it sells.

  7. Hi Courtney,

    I was glad to read this essay again. I consider you “brave” (😊) because you have the courage to challenge the false assumption that “overcoming” any difference is preferable in our society, including many of us who stutter.

    We both know that people feel so uncomfortable with stuttering because it’s hidden. And there’s shockingly little education about the true nature of stuttering. People don’t see stuttering when encountering someone who stutters, so how we talk comes as a surprise. When surprised with hidden disabilities, the average person’s filter to be appropriate gets clogged and they might act or say something negative (or just plain dumb.)

    Like you allude to, we have an automatic filter that tells our brain not to laugh at a wheelchair user, but all bets are off with stuttering, which still is considered to be OK to be laughed at.

    I think many reflections on this piece will show how uncomfortable people really are with disability. Maybe they think that condescending praise will make the person who stutters, or has any non visible disability, feel better. Actually, it makes the person who doesn’t stutter feel better for thinking they’ve made us feel better. (That sounds weird but I think it’s valid.)

    I agree that Amanda chose to do something she may have never had thought possible. But clearly the judges (especially Simon) and the audience with the exaggerated jaw dropping looks, and close ups of people crying, just shows how very far we (still) have to go to NOT have people applaud the exact same things able bodied people do quietly every day, without fanfare.

    You hit a chord. You disrupted the narrative and I am so glad you did!

    Pam

    • Pam – thank you for this lovely, eloquent comment. This is so powerful – “we have an automatic filter that tells our brain not to laugh at a wheelchair user, but all bets are off with stuttering.” Exactly. Appreciate you.

  8. Hello!

    I’m a speech pathology graduate student, and I couldn’t have loved this post more! Not only was this informative, but filled with powerful perspective. Some phrases that really stuck out and resonated with me were: “But often, the stuttering itself only becomes a hindrance when society makes it that way,” “Words like impediment perpetuate the stigma and keep the vicious cycle moving forward,” and “I want to get to a place where stuttering is normalized in the media. Where we can have a character who is both handsome, confident, AND stutters.” In my future practice, I hope to encourage others and myself to normalize stuttering instead of praising the stigma.

    Thanks for a great read!
    – Sarah

    • Thank you for reading Sarah! I’m so glad to hear that you enjoyed this post. Good luck with your future endeavors – you’ll be a wonderful SLP!

  9. Hi Courtney! I hadn’t seen this video before, and you chose a great example! Your discussion is very poignant and well-organized. I noticed that the description under the title of the video calls it “an inspiring performance,” which really underscores the inspiration narrative. You do a terrific job of identifying microaggressions (even in the comments). I’m bummed that everyone cheers when Amanda says, “I found that I…I don’t stutter when I sing.” It feels like they are cheering for fluency there. And then (as you point out) cheering again later for the rapid transition from stuttering to fluent singing. At least Simon says, “And also you’re a good songwriter,” but in my opinion that should have been the first thing he said. Thanks!

    • Thank you for reaching, Adam. Exactly – her songwriting should have been praised instead of her fluency.

  10. Hello!

    I’m a speech pathology graduate student that is currently taking a fluency course, and I absolutely loved your post! The information was informative and provided a unique perspective. The “you’re so brave” attitude that the media has towards people who stutter really resonated. I often remember watching talent-based shows praising those who are considered “different” and your example of “Singer With Depression Moves the Judges to Tears, Overweight Singer Moves the Judges to Tears,” etc., really spoke to me. I do believe that social media is also a positive way to provide representation to a person who stutters as well. I often see people who stutter using social media accounts like TikTok to educate others. Social media and the media, in general, can be like a double-edged sword but this post provided a great perspective that I will be using in my future practice. It is important to educate others (myself included) as well as normalize stuttering instead of praising the stigma.

    Once again, thank you for the great read!

    • Thank you for reading, Megan! I’m glad to hear that you enjoyed reading the post. I appreciate SLP students coming on here to hear the stories of people who stutter. That’s so important. Yes, social media can absolutely be positive if we use it to tell an accurate story of a person who stutters.

  11. Hello!

    When reading your paper, I found myself reflecting upon my views/thought about PWS and public speaking. I realized that I have been guilty of thinking someone was brave for getting up and speaking in front of a big group as a PWS. I admire anyone who can get up in front of large groups, because I feel like that would be impossible for me. But I also realized that part of me thinking they were brave revolved around the fact that they did it even though they stutter. I realize that this is not the appropriate way of thinking after reading what you shared. Something that really resounded with me from your paper was when you shared the quote, “…we just want to be considered normal.” I completely agree with the need to normalize stuttering. You provided me a different perspective to consider when thinking of PWS. Thank you so much for sharing this and writing so openly. I hope to be able to help others learn the importance of normalizing stuttering in the future. Thank you again for an excellent read!

    • Thank you so much for reading, Gretchen. I’m happy to hear this got you thinking. Admiring someone for getting up and speaking to a group (which is hard for everyone) is totally normal and is a part of human nature. It takes an extra step to think about why it could be harmful to say these things to a PWS. I appreciate you thinking about it a new way.

  12. Hello Courtney!
    I am a senior majoring in communication disorders with a focus in speech language pathology.
    Thank you for taking the time to differentiate and have the conversation about normalizing stuttering vs. praising the stigma. Something that really caught my eye was the change of video titles. It seemed very demeaning when I read it and it demonstrates how uncomfortable those comments are. There are many comments people make and sometimes they don’t even realize they may be hurtful because they don’t understand the topic. As a future SLP how do you think I can take this information when working with a person who stutters?

  13. Hi Courtney!
    As a communication sciences & disorders undergrad, I would like to point out that as eye opening and amazing my professors have been, there is a whole other level of wisdom to be learned from those living what I’m taught. Thank you for illustrating your message in a way that opens people’s eyes — those uncomfortable title examples. People must learn to not pity someone who is different, but instead see their strengths, appreciate it, and move on. I understand some may not realize that singing is a different form of communication than speaking, or they mean well by commenting something inspirational about Amanda because they don’t know they’re appreciating the wrong aspect of her. However, the internet and social media are at the forefront for education as it’s literally in our hands and readily accessible. I always see so many authors and creators bringing awareness to disabilities and I look forward to seeing belittling vocabulary decrease and total acceptance increase!

    Much thanks,
    Dominique

    • What a lovely comment, thank you Dominique. Exactly, there’s no match for first hand experiences. I so agree that the internet and social media are at the forefront of education. I think these platforms have the potential to spread a lot of good!

  14. Thank you for sharing this, Courtney! I am a communication sciences & disorders undergraduate. It is really interesting how stuttering is portrayed in the media and your post really puts things into perspective. I appreciate your narrative in pointing out the problems with this kind of portrayal. I agree that stuttering should be normalized in the media, and you do not have to overcome your stuttering to be beautiful. I really appreciated your analogy between stuttering and weight.

    • Thank you for your comment! I appreciate you reading and best of luck in your studies. I know you will make an excellent SLP.

  15. I really appreciate the way you highlight the concept of “inspiration porn.” As you discuss in the article, having a stutter or any disability does not define you as an individual or automatically make you brave and inspirational. Showing up and overcoming adversity despite your disability is what makes you brave. Drawing comparisons to having a stutter or disability to other descriptives such as “singer with depression” and “overweight singer” really put this into perspective.

    • Thank you for reading! I’m glad you related to the descriptives of other disabilities. We would never refer to other disabilities in the way we refer to stuttering.

  16. Hi Courtney! I gained a lot of insight from your post, thank you! I especially liked how you explained that stuttering is not an impediment in and of itself, “stuttering itself only becomes a hindrance when society makes it that way.” I thought comparing stuttering to weight and other personal differences was a very good way of exemplifying that a person who stutters just has a different way of speaking. You are right, we praise people who stutter for doing normal things or for not stuttering, but with that mentality we are never going to normalize stuttering.

    • Thank you for reading! Exactly – we have to get past this mentality in order to normalize stuttering. We are starting to get there with other differences people might have, such as weight.

  17. Hello Courtney. Thank you for sharing this very insightful take on how the media and society views any difference, and in this case, stuttering. I do not think people have the sufficient knowledge in regards to disorders in general, which is truly unfortunate. If more people had exposure to all the different types of differences and disorders I think they wouldn’t stigmatize it so much. I think you sharing can be super impactful to spread awareness about their difference. Did you feel this type of stigma when you were going through your SLP program?

    Thank you,
    Tamara

    • Hi Tamara – thank you for reading. I love what you said, “If more people had exposure to all the different types of differences and disorders I think they wouldn’t stigmatize it so much.” I completely agree. We can’t possibly know everything about everything. I feel that a lot of the burden on us as people who stutter is to spread education and awareness.

      Great question. Yes. My supervisor pulled me out of the room while I was giving the CELF to a client and told me that we should have another student do the test because of my stuttering. She felt it was impacting the child’s performance on the test (it was not). There are numerous other experiences I had in graduate school that were personally traumatizing for me but I do not wish to put them in writing.

      Also, before graduate school, at another institution, I was told that I had to go to therapy to fix my stuttering before I could start my pre-requisites.

      I have several friends who stutter who are also SLPs and had horrible experiences in graduate school. One even failed out of the program because of points taken off for “communication skills” during clinic. We have to do better.

  18. Hello Courtney,
    Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and advocating for change. I am an undergraduate student that is majoring in communication sciences & disorders and I am currently taking my upper division fluency course. I can feel that I get a different sense of learning and understanding when its coming from someone from experience. I really enjoyed your approach to get your point across throughout this whole article. I liked how you substituted speech impediment with other phrases that make people feel uncomfortable. I thought it was great because it often takes that discomfort for individuals to understand a viewpoint. I also enjoyed your the overall message that society needs to normalize stuttering but also reframe the approaches that are typical when encountering a pws. For example, your point on microaggression that appear to be compliments such as using the words inspirational or brave. As a future SLP I will for sure take this learning experience with me and use my practice to help advocate for change as well not only in my future profession but also with family and friends. Are there any resources or platforms that you recommend that can continue to educate us on this topic?

    Thank you again for sharing

  19. Hi Courtney,

    Thank you so much for your thoughts. I think this is a really important area to address and educate people in, as I think many people think they are being nice, when really they are perpetuating stigmas and microaggressions, which contribute to the dehumanization and shame that many PWS feel. Do you have any advice on how to advocate for this outside of addressing it with family and friends when it arises?

    Thank you,
    Isabella

    • Thank you for reading, Isabella. Great question. I don’t think there’s a simple answer. Advocacy starts with awareness and understanding, which you’re doing right now. From there, we can focus on the small things (that are big things toward PWS) – like being patient, maintaining eye contact, the language we use (e.g., refraining from saying things like “Wow, you sound so good today! You didn’t stutter at all!”), etc.

  20. Courtney,i enjoyed reading your perspective on this topic of  stuttering. I am a SLP undergraduate student and will keep all of this information in mind when working with a stuttering client. Can you provide me with advice on how to share this perspective with a client, as i am concerned they may feel like i am being insensitive and not being understanding.I know there are many people who change their career because  they feel like their stutter is too prevalent, how can i get them to embrace their stutter and pursue whatever they want?

    • Hi Desiree – thank you for reading. This is a huge question, one that I encourage you to continue to ask. Help them answer the magic question – “What would you do if tomorrow you woke up fluent?” Can they do those things and still stutter? What is strong communication? How is this different than fluency? Can they stutter AND be a good communicator (ie be successful in their career)? Connect them with other people who stutter – especially those in their same career. Have them explore the National Stuttering Association westutter@work initiative: https://westutter.org/careersuccess/

      Present different perspectives/viewpoints on stuttering and have the client share their thoughts. What do they agree with? What do they disagree with?

  21. Courtney, I love your outlook on stuttering. I am not saying this is the same thing, but I am deaf in my left ear, and can relate to this a lot. When people realize that I am deaf in one ear and I do something as normal and mundane as hearing someone talking in another room they are shocked and unnecessarily proud that I was able to hear that person. I am currently pursuing my master’s degree in speech-language pathology and most people question how, as a person who is deaf in one ear, will I be able to be successful. It is unfair that when someone shares that they have a disability people automatically assume that they aren’t able to do things. They don’t just lower the bar of their standards, they get rid of the bar completely. Disability does not mean that someone is dumb or incompetent nor does it mean that they are brave or a saint. A disability is a diagnosis NOT the person’s whole personality.

  22. Yes we need to rethink the words we use. There is no good or bad stuttering day. We just stutter more or less. We don’t “stutter like mad”. Once we start using positive language ourselves, we can make other people realize they should too. We are not our stutter. There’s nothing wrong with us. Nothing bad. We just speak in a different way, needing a bit more time. And once we found our voices, we could use them to explain to people what’s helpful and what’s not. That’s why I made my quote “Stutter I stutter, what are you good at?”, as it gets the elephant out of the room, with a smile, and an opening phrase for others to know it’s ok for me to talk about it. I wrote something similar in my paper. And this year there have been so many media performances, it feels there’s a shift going on. So let’s keep this train going. 😉

    Keep talking

    Anita

  23. Howdy! I am a university student currently working towards becoming a Speech-Language Pathologist. The public views regarding people with speech and language disorders are unfortunate, especially considering that many (as you have shown via the video comments) mean well but phrase their words poorly or misconstrue what is right. Articles like your help people understand that stuttering is not something to be pitied so much as accepted as a different way of reaching the same result as a nonstuttering individual. However, I have a question that may stem from my own ignorance that I would like to have clarified. You noted in the beginning of the article that stuttering is a difference and not an impediment. I find myself agreeing and disagreeing, based on the severity of the stuttering. From my understanding, stuttering is something to learn how to manage rather than “overcome.” When stuttering is very severe and causing significant difficulties in everyday conversation, how would you perceive this? The message that the person wishes to communicate is, in the typical scenario, blocked for a prolonged period of time. Surely, there must be times when this does cause issues, albeit not very often. Regardless, in the most severe cases, I see it as both a different way of speaking (stuttering is okay) and problematic (several minutes on a stuttered word or phrase) in some situations. I will reiterate, I do not doubt that I am ignorant to this subject, which is why I am asking rather than dwelling on these questions silently. I would love to hear you thoughts.
    Cheers, Evan Milford

    • Evan, this is a fantastic question. Thank you for bringing it up. I could talk about this topic for hours, but I’ll try to just share a couple points here. As someone who used to block for 1-2 minutes at a time, I very much relate to this. We can’t ignore the elephant in the room. If someone is blocked for several minutes, it absolutely poses a barrier to communication and success. Like you said, this could definitely be problematic and may not fall into the category of “acceptable communication” in our society. With that being said, what is “normal” or “acceptable”? Is it “okay” to have a 2-3 second block, but not a 10 second block, etc.? Society determines what is normal and acceptable.

      There is a good amount of psychological and environmental factors that contribute to struggle and severity in PWS. The person might be doing something to help them get the word out that is actually interfering with their fluency. When we try to push our words out, stuttering pushes harder and we get blocked. Some of this is due to the pressure of society dictating that it’s not okay to stutter (so we push to try to be fluent, instead of letting the stuttering come out naturally). Often, as we become more accepting and open about our stuttering, our blocks become less severe. But if the environment around us is not accepting and continues to perpetuate the stigma, this task becomes impossible. It’s a double edged sword.